It began with a statement. Something lost. Something found. How to send it in the right direction. Possible solutions. Possible outcomes. Hardly a disaster.
Of course, it began with a cell phone inadvertently left behind.
Clear choices to retrieve it.
An extra 15 minutes (one way) to retrieve it. Plus time for a quick chat.
Time well spent.
How many choices in life are truly dichotomous?
I’ve come to hate “but” whether it is attached to the yes or the no.
Maybe that’s a personal issue for me.
Currently, I know that I appreciate “when” attached to either the yes or the no. It just doesn’t feel as negative or as conversation stopping as “but”. Maybe that’s my perception.
“Yes, we can play dinosaurs when we pick up the cars and trucks.”
Yes, we can have ice cream with our cupcakes when we finish dinner.
Maybe it’s restating the desired action first before the WHEN that works for me that didn’t work when I said, “Yes, but pick up the cars and trucks first.”
And then again maybe it is ageism. Maybe fewer things are black and white and the WHEN just feels like a larger gray area. Maybe it’s a grandma thing.
Listen to your next three yes or no responses. What follows? Are there conditions? Which ones work for you?
Right now I’m still collecting data.
WHEN seems to be winning and feels right for me.
For me, adding a condition of “time” and not an ordinal number makes it less of a negotiation and yet a bit more specific. I’m willing to keep studying when I say “yes” or “no” which words am I tacking on!
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